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If You Want to Truly Heal Say Goodbye To These 7 Myths About Recovery

If You Want to Truly Heal Say Goodbye To These 7 Myths About Recovery

When I used to think about the words recovery and/or healing I automatically thought of the stigmatized version of those words. The version that brings shame about needing to recover or heal... it made me feel broken, just like how I was made to believe. The self-recovery process has

Healing Without Permission: Owning Your Story, Your Way

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Healing Without Permission: Owning Your Story, Your Way

Many of us have faced moments that shook us—moments that changed us. The pain, the loss, the sheer unfairness of it all can leave us stuck in a cycle of "why me?" It’s a natural and valid response, but it’s not where the story has

5 Writing Prompts to Start Healing from Trauma

5 Writing Prompts to Start Healing from Trauma

Lighten the load, one word at a time. Trauma can feel like a weight you carry everywhere, shaping how you see the world and yourself. But what if you could begin to lighten that load, one word at a time? Writing is a powerful tool for healing. It allows you

Why Some Acts of “Help” Leave You Feeling Trapped Instead of Supported?

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Why Some Acts of “Help” Leave You Feeling Trapped Instead of Supported?

Is It Love or Is It Control? Have you ever received help that left you with a strange, unsettling feeling—almost like a bad aftertaste or even the heebie-jeebies? It turns out, not all help is created equal. In fact, there’s a huge difference between helping as an act

People Who Grew Up in Unsafe Homes Usually Develop These 7 Coping Mechanisms

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People Who Grew Up in Unsafe Homes Usually Develop These 7 Coping Mechanisms

You can transform survival instincts into strengths. Growing up in an unsafe home—whether marked by emotional neglect, abuse, or constant chaos—forces children to develop coping mechanisms to survive. These habits, while adaptive in the moment, can become hurdles in adulthood. Thankfully, it's not all doom and

Writing Led Me To See The World Differently — Not Just Traveling.

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Writing Led Me To See The World Differently — Not Just Traveling.

How to initiate healing, growth, and discover meaning in adversity. It’s been a long journey crawling my way out of depression and complex trauma. I’ve always been an ideological dare-devil — not the kind that jumps off planes but the kind that dares to dream outside of my immediate

Boundaries Aren’t Walls: Live by Your Values, Not Your Fears

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Boundaries Aren’t Walls: Live by Your Values, Not Your Fears

We often think of boundaries as walls we put up to keep others at a distance. But, walls are walls, boundaries are something else. It's true that boundaries protect our personal space, just like walls. However, boundaries are not just about keeping people out—they’re about honoring

Working with Teenage Sex Offenders: Things We Can Learn

Working with Teenage Sex Offenders: Things We Can Learn

Anti-social behaviors, PSB programs, and path to success. Sexual offenses, criminality, and anti-social behaviors — these are lurking issues in our society that are either over-sensationalized in the media or are glossed over by our hyper-idealist culture. I’ve been thinking about sharing my experience with the world for months now

Why They Call Her the "Iron Woman"? Femicide In Turkey.

Why They Call Her the "Iron Woman"? Femicide In Turkey.

The story of Mutlu & Dilek Kaya, and millions of others, through the lens of a PSB counselor in the US. A few evenings ago I came across the story of Mutlu Kaya, a famous singer from the southern parts of Türkiye who was shot in the head by her

Transforming Stress into Success: Staying Grounded in High-Stress Environments

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Transforming Stress into Success: Staying Grounded in High-Stress Environments

Insights and tools from lived experience in high-intensity behavioral health settings. My work in a high-intensity behavioral health facility taught me universal truths about handling stress and personal growth. While managing crises with troubled teens might seem far removed from your daily challenges, the principles of resilience I've

One Common Issue with Negative Commenters & Ranters

One Common Issue with Negative Commenters & Ranters

Projection, projection, projection. The longer I create in public, the more negative comments my content attracts. This is nothing special — just ask anyone who has ever interacted with another human being. Although I usually waste no time reading negative and unhelpful rants, I do sometimes stop and glance through some

Entrepreneurs: Maybe You Should Complain More

Entrepreneurs: Maybe You Should Complain More

Our dissatisfactions are absolute gold mines for innovations –- but we gotta do it right. Hey, I’m FOR complaining! There is absolutely nothing wrong with complaining , we all do it. If you don’t see a problem with something then you would never complain about it, right? So why

Writer’s Block Is A Symptom of Unresolved Trauma

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Writer’s Block Is A Symptom of Unresolved Trauma

Here are some steps you can take to resolve writer's block. Trauma disrupts memory, focus, and emotional regulation, all of these are crucial for writing. Actually, trauma doesn’t just disrupt memories—it rewires our entire internal narrative. It reshapes how we see ourselves and the world, turning

You Can’t Just “Be A Writer” and Expect to Make It In the Long Run

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You Can’t Just “Be A Writer” and Expect to Make It In the Long Run

Real talk: you are wasting time and energy chasing an empty dream. That’s what I used to think also — just focus on writing, creating content, putting yourself out there, engaging, and through time and practice: * Quality work will eventually appear * A niche will appear * An audience will start to

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